By Beverly Engel — 2017
These four avenues can lead you toward self-forgiveness.
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At a weekend workshop I led, one of the participants, Marian, shared her story about the shame and guilt that had tortured her.
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If we can process our regrets with tenderness and compassion, we can use these hard memories as a part of our wisdom bank.
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According to the dictionary, to forgive is to stop feeling angry or resentful toward yourself or others for some perceived offense, flaw, or mistake. Keeping that definition in mind, forgiveness becomes a form of compassion.
Guilt and shame can lead to depression, anxiety, and paranoia, but they also nudge us to behave better. Research suggests that they serve an important, adaptive function important for human survival.
At the end of the day, guilt and shame are crucial social emotions, as they keep people from acting in pure self-interest.
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Sadness is a central part of our lives, yet it’s typically ignored at work, hurting employees and managers alike.
Everybody gets bored now and then. But some people are less likely to experience boredom than others—and it may have something to do with how they treat themselves, say researchers.
Living a self-determined life doesn’t mean that you have to quit your job or move countries or make any other radical changes, it’s all about the small steps.
There are various developmental theories that go into the tool kit that parents and educators utilize to help mold caring and ethically intact people, including those of Swiss psychologist Jean Piaget and American psychologist Lawrence Kohlberg.