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Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person

By Alain de Botton — 2016

Romanticism has been unhelpful to us; it is a harsh philosophy. It has made a lot of what we go through in marriage seem exceptional and appalling. We end up lonely and convinced that our union, with its imperfections, is not “normal.” We should learn to accommodate ourselves to “wrongness,” striving always to adopt a more forgiving, humorous and kindly perspective on its multiple examples in ourselves and in our partners.

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Managing the Flames of Conflict

Conflict doesn’t mean the end of your remarriage, and can actually make it stronger. There are always going to be disagreements; you cannot avoid them entirely. What you can do, however, is become skilled at recovering from disputes by talking about your perspectives afterwards.

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Terry Gaspard
2022
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Is Love Really Sweeter the Second Time Around?

It was during these awkward fertility treatments that it dawned on me that there were some dramatic differences between my first and second marriages.

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Terry Gaspard
2022
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Is Your Marriage Worth Saving?

A Q&A with Terry Real

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My Husband and I Grope Each Other in Front of Our Kids, and Here’s Why

My husband and I grope each other constantly. I don’t think a day goes by without at least one of us copping a feel. I say this proudly because after almost 20 years of being together, we are still hot for each other. And I don’t see any reason to hide this from our kids.

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Elisha Beach
2021
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Motherhood Changes What Women Want in a Husband or Partner

They say that having kids changes everything. That is neurologically, psychologically, and economically true.

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Sarah Bregel
2018
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Does a More Equal Marriage Mean Less Sex?

The very qualities that lead to greater emotional satisfaction in peer marriages, as one sociologist calls them, may be having an unexpectedly negative impact on these couples’ sex lives.

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Lori Gottlieb
2014
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Famed Author Gary Chapman Talks Love, Marriage, Sex

Relationships that are successful tend to take the attitude: "How can I help you?" "How can I enrich your life?" "How can I be a better husband to you," if it's a marriage. "How can I be a better wife to you?" And what we want to do is to enhance each other's lives.

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Luiza Oleszczuk
2012
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How Your Mother Can Improve Your Love Life. ~ Mark Wolynn

When you think of your mother, does your heart open with compassion or tighten with resentment? Do you allow yourself to feel her tenderness and care? The way we receive our mother’s love can be similar to how we experience love from a partner.

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Mark Wolynn
2013
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No Such Thing as a Relationship Expert

From a Buddhist standpoint, there’s nothing to win in a relationship, just as there’s nothing to win in life—except, of course, the deep satisfaction that comes from appreciation, collaboration, and love.

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Ethan Nichtern
2017
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21 Ways to Strengthen Struggling Relationships

All relationships go through phases, there will be good times and challenges. When you recognize that your relationship is in a rough spot, take heart. Great relationships don’t happen by luck. There are the specific skills and actions that strengthen our relationships.

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Leslie Frey
2020
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