You not calling, as a friend, can actually compound the grief and loss they are feeling. Just pick up the phone, even if you get it wrong, just have a conversation and do your best. Your friend with cancer is still the same person they were before.
When looking back on my undergraduate years, I think about the moments that truly changed me and shaped my understanding of what being in college really means. Yes, going to class, cramming for tests, being involved are all part of the college culture.
We tend to “believe” in the woke-ness that is “performed” for us. “The more vocal you are, the more confident you appear. And because you appear more confident, you seem to have more influence on other people, who believe you’ll be great at practicing what you claim too,” she says.