2009
In New York City's Harlem circa 1987, an overweight, abused, illiterate teen who is pregnant with her second child is invited to enroll in an alternative school in hopes that her life can head in a new direction.
110 min
CLEAR ALL
At a weekend workshop I led, one of the participants, Marian, shared her story about the shame and guilt that had tortured her.
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If we can process our regrets with tenderness and compassion, we can use these hard memories as a part of our wisdom bank.
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Forgiving someone is a way of letting go of old baggage so that you can heal and move forward with your life. It benefits both the person who forgives and the offender because it can allow both people to let go of past resentments.
According to the dictionary, to forgive is to stop feeling angry or resentful toward yourself or others for some perceived offense, flaw, or mistake. Keeping that definition in mind, forgiveness becomes a form of compassion.
Whether you said something out of anger and hurt your partner’s feelings or you completely forgot about a deadline for work, your next move is critical. So on today’s Friday Fix, I share the exact things you should say to increase the chances that your apology will be accepted.
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When forgiveness experts talk in binary language (’You either forgive the wrongdoer or you are a prisoner of your own anger and hate’), they are collapsing the messy complexity of human emotions into a simplistic dichotomous equation.
People’s sense of self-worth is pivotal to their ability to look clearly at the hurt they’ve caused. The more solid one’s sense of self regard, the more likely that that person can feel empathy and compassion for the hurt party, and apologize from an authentic center.
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Forgiveness is not just a selfish pursuit of personal satisfaction or righteousness. It actually alleviates the amount of suffering in the world.
Everyone thinks forgiveness is a lovely idea until he has something to forgive.