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If you love deeply, you’re going to get hurt badly. But it’s still worth it.
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Avoidance will make you feel less vulnerable in the short run, but it will never make you less afraid.
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We cannot make another person change his or her steps to an old dance, but if we change our own steps, the dance no longer can continue in the same predictable pattern.
Love is something more stern and splendid than mere kindness.
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How relationships unfold with the most important people in our lives depends on courage and clarity in finding voice. This is equally true for our relationship with our self.
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It is not fear that stops you from doing the brave and true thing in your daily life. Rather, the problem is avoidance. You want to feel comfortable so you avoid doing or saying the thing that will evoke fear and other difficult emotions.
Only through our connectedness to others can we really know and enhance the self. And only through working on the self can we begin to enhance our connectedness to others.
Affection is responsible for nine-tenths of whatever solid and durable happiness there is in our natural lives.
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Do not waste time bothering whether you ‘love’ your neighbor; act as if you did. As soon as we do this we find one of the great secrets. When you are behaving as if you loved someone, you will presently come to love him.
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Courage is not simply one of the virtues but the form of every virtue at the testing point, which means at the point of highest reality.