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Do not waste time bothering whether you ‘love’ your neighbor; act as if you did. As soon as we do this we find one of the great secrets. When you are behaving as if you loved someone, you will presently come to love him.
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We meet no ordinary people in our lives.
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Friendship . . . is born at the moment when one man says to another, ‘What! You too? I thought that no one but myself . . .’
People’s sense of self-worth is pivotal to their ability to look clearly at the hurt they’ve caused. The more solid one’s sense of self regard, the more likely that that person can feel empathy and compassion for the hurt party, and apologize from an authentic center.
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Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others.
Anger is inevitable when our lives consist of giving in and going along; when we assume responsibility for other people’s feelings and reactions; when we relinquish our primary responsibility to proceed with our own growth and ensure the quality of our own lives; when we behave as if having a...
Feeling angry signals a problem, venting anger does not solve it. Venting anger may serve to maintain, and even rigidify, the old rules and patterns in a relationship, thus ensuring that change does not occur.
Affection is responsible for nine-tenths of whatever solid and durable happiness there is in our natural lives.
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We live, in fact, in a world starved for solitude, silence, and private: and therefore starved for meditation and true friendship.
If you love deeply, you’re going to get hurt badly. But it’s still worth it.
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