The remedy is not to suppress negative experiences; when they happen, they happen. Rather, it is to foster positive experiences—and in particular, to take them in so they become a permanent part of you.

Rick Hanson, PhD, is an American neuropsychologist and bestselling author whose work focuses on meditation and positive, self-directed neuroplasticity. He is a cofounder of the Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom, a senior fellow of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley, and has been an invited speaker at Oxford, Stanford, and Harvard, as well as teaching at meditation centers worldwide.