Chris Germer, PhD, is a clinical psychologist, speaker, and author on mindfulness and self-compassion. He developed the field of mindfulness-based self-compassion therapy with Kristin Neff.
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Only through our connectedness to others can we really know and enhance the self. And only through working on the self can we begin to enhance our connectedness to others.
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We cannot make another person change his or her steps to an old dance, but if we change our own steps, the dance no longer can continue in the same predictable pattern.
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Stay a verb—don’t become a noun.
Learning any new skill involves relatively brief spurts of progress, each of which is followed by a slight decline to a plateau somewhat higher in most cases than that which preceded it . . . the upward spurts vary; the plateaus have their own dips and rises along the way. . . .
Indecision leads to inaction, which leads to low energy, depression, despair.
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Resolve to do the things you find to be difficult. That’s what confident people do. They tackle those things that are scary and they get addicted to doing it.
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I learned again and again in my life, until you get your own act together, you’re not ready for Big Love. What you’re ready for is one of those codependent relationships where you desperately need a partner.
Letting ourselves be forgiven is one of the most difficult healings we will undertake. And one of the most fruitful.
How strange that the nature of life is change, yet the nature of human beings is to resist change.
Since in order to speak, one must first listen, learn to speak by listening.