Esther Perel

Esther Perel, MA, LMFT, is a Belgian psychotherapist specializing in relationships and intimacy. In addition to running her practice, she is an author, speaker, and host of the podcast Where Should We Begin?.


Rethinking Infidelity ... a Talk for Anyone Who Has Ever Loved | Esther Perel

Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal. But does it have to be? Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines why people cheat, and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic: because they threaten our emotional security. In infidelity, she sees something unexpected - an expression of longing and loss.

The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity

Iconic couples' therapist and best-selling author of Mating in Captivity Esther Perel returns with a groundbreaking and provocative look at infidelity, arguing for a more nuanced and less judgmental conversation about our transgressions.

Why People Cheat

Perel offers nuanced support for individuals, couples, and other lovers in the throes of an affair, or its aftermath.

Marriage is not the end of romance, it is the beginning. It’s a story that they are writing together, one with many chapters, and neither partner knows how it will end.


The Secret to Desire in a Long-Term Relationship | Esther Perel

In long-term relationships, we often expect our beloved to be both best friend and erotic partner. But as Esther Perel argues, good and committed sex draws on two conflicting needs: our need for security and our need for surprise.

Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic

One of the world’s most respected voices on erotic intelligence, Esther Perel offers a bold, provocative new take on intimacy and sex. Mating in Captivity invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home.

Why Happy People Cheat

Infidelity may be ubiquitous, but the way we make meaning of it—how we define it, experience it, and talk about it—is ultimately linked to the particular time and place where the drama unfolds.

We expect our committed relationships to be romantic as well as emotionally and sexually fulfilling. Is it any wonder that so many relationships crumble under the weight of it all?


Esther Perel Explains Why Couples Fight | Svt/Tv 2/Skavlan

Belgian psychotherapist and relationship expert Esther Perel talks about why and how couples fight in this episode of Scandinavian talk show Skavlan.

Love Is Not a Permanent State of Enthusiasm: An Interview with Esther Perel

From the New Yorker Festival, the couples therapist and podcast host discusses infidelity, apologies, and the problem with wedding vows these days.


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