Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a teacher, clinician, researcher, and developer of the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy® (PACT), a fusion of attachment theory, developmental neuroscience, and arousal regulation. He speaks and teaches on how to create and support secure-functioning relationships.
Once we've fallen in love, it's difficult for most of us to think as clearly as we might have prior to becoming attached to someone. We overlook the small things, which is good. But we can also ignore the large things—matters that, if closely examined, might mean the end of the relationship.
The eyes are the windows to the soul, right? Sure, why not? Maybe that vulnerability of being able to look right into someone is what makes eye-contact difficult, particularly during arguments. Maybe it's something more visceral and primal, like a challenge.
In We Do, Tatkin provides a groundbreaking guide for couples. You’ll figure out whether you and your partner are right for each other in the long term, and if so, give your relationship a strong foundation so you can enjoy a secure and lasting love.