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Stan Tatkin



Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a teacher, clinician, researcher, and developer of the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy® (PACT), a fusion of attachment theory, developmental neuroscience, and arousal regulation. He speaks and teaches on how to create and support secure-functioning relationships.

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Stan Tatkin: Relationships Are Hard, But Why? | TEDxKC

Relationships are hard. But what if it's not you or them or sex, money, or even who picks up the socks.

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Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner’s Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship

Wired for Love is a complete insider’s guide to understanding your partner’s brain and enjoying a romantic relationship built on love and trust.

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The Surprising Truth About Relationship Deal Breakers

Once we've fallen in love, it's difficult for most of us to think as clearly as we might have prior to becoming attached to someone. We overlook the small things, which is good. But we can also ignore the large things—matters that, if closely examined, might mean the end of the relationship.

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FindCenter Quotes ImageDevote yourself to your partner’s sense of safety and security and not simply to your idea about what that should be. What may make you feel safe and secure may not be what your partner requires from you.

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3 Secrets to a Long-Lasting Happy Marriage | Stan Tatkin and Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin

Relationship experts and couple, Stan Tatkin PsyD, MFT and Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, PhD reveal the three secrets to a long, happy marriage.

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How to Maintain Great Eye Contact During Difficult Conversations with Your Spouse

The eyes are the windows to the soul, right? Sure, why not? Maybe that vulnerability of being able to look right into someone is what makes eye-contact difficult, particularly during arguments. Maybe it's something more visceral and primal, like a challenge.

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Stan Tatkin: How to Deal with an Avoidant Partner & Interpersonal Stress (Smart Couple 104)

Stan Tatkin returns and serves up another awesome dose of relationship advice through the lens of adult attachment.

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FindCenter Quotes ImageCouples in distress too often turn to solutions that can be summed up by ‘you do your thing and I’ll do my thing’ or ‘you take care of yourself and I’ll take care of myself.

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We Do: Saying Yes to a Relationship of Depth, True Connection, and Enduring Love

In We Do, Tatkin provides a groundbreaking guide for couples. You’ll figure out whether you and your partner are right for each other in the long term, and if so, give your relationship a strong foundation so you can enjoy a secure and lasting love.

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How to End Pandemic Fights with Your Partner

Couples’ fights in lockdown are often about the unremitting intensity of togetherness. The sooner you de-escalate a fight, the sooner you can begin working on real solutions.

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