All children can be defiant, fussy, whiny, hurtful to others, excessively angry, withdrawn, constantly crying, or refuse to eat or sleep—once in a while. But when these behaviors become habits, it becomes a big challenge for parents and caregivers to be as loving, patient, persistent, and creative as possible. Many of these are normal behaviors and will resolve with simple strategies, but sometimes they become something more serious. Whether the child is in distress and communicating their stress and frustration the only way they know how, or whether the child’s personality requires a non-standard strategy to navigate around, experts from many backgrounds have suggestions.
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There are many reasons a child doesn't respond to typical parenting techniques. Whatever the root cause of the intensity, parent coach and trainer Tina Feigal's revised edition of her book (formerly titled The Pocket Coach for Parents) will give you the tools you need to create a peaceful life.
Whether you're raising an energetic child or you're dealing with a strong-willed one, there are certain child behavior problems that are common at one point or another. The way you respond to these behavior problems play a major role in how likely your child is to repeat them in the future.
Do you dread parent-teacher conferences? Does your child really know how to push your hot button? Has your child been labeled “defiant” or “rebellious”? Here are proven strategies that have helped millions to tame—not break—a spirited child.