Communication Skills

Communication problems arise in many ways to plague our relationships, from speaking indirectly, being distracted, and misunderstanding context all the way to abusive outbursts. We all come from a unique context that colors how we understand and communicate with others: some of us have brains that find it difficult to interpret figurative language; some of us come from families where we are expected to be loud and boisterous; some of us are from communities that that find it rude to ask direct questions. When we add emotional interpretations to how we communicate—like “they don’t respect me” or “I’m so stupid because I misunderstood”—we can shut down, lash out, or become passive-aggressive. Improving our communication skills always starts with listening: both to other people and our own assumptions. We’ve started gathering valuable information on this topic, but haven’t yet curated the findings.

What You Need to Know About Emotional Intelligence

Most people are familiar with general intelligence, which is an ability to learn, apply knowledge, and solve problems. But this isn’t the only type of intelligence. Some people also possess emotional intelligence.

How to Communicate with Someone Who Has Lower Emotional Intelligence Than You

While those who lead with their Feeling function can demonstrate higher emotional intelligence (EQ), meaning they have the ability to use their emotions in positive ways to communicate and make themselves understood, Thinkers can have a lower EQ.

How to Improve Emotional Intelligence Through Training

Emotional Intelligence is our mind’s ability to perceive, manage, and express emotions effectively in real life. Jack Mayer and Peter Salovey (1990) defined Emotional Intelligence (or E.I.) as the ability to regulate feelings and use them to guide our actions.


Relationship Challenges