Family Dynamics

Family dynamics are the ways we relate to each other within a family unit. We all have patterns of behavior—whether positive, negative, or neutral—with our parents, siblings, children, and other extended family members. While each family’s dynamics are different, evidence of healthy family dynamics occurs when all members receive and offer various types of support to each other, leaving everyone feeling safe and secure in their relationships. Healthy family dynamics are fluid and adaptable as each member’s role, responsibilities, and capabilities shift over time. Unhealthy dynamics result in enmeshed, codependent, or abusive relationships, where some members are left with unmet needs or harmful coping strategies. Examining our own family’s dynamics can help us create stronger, safer relationships for everyone we care about. We’ve started gathering valuable information on this topic, but haven’t yet curated the findings.


Narcissistic Family Roles (Scapegoat, Golden Child, Invisible Child)

Disclaimer: this information is for educational purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for clinical care. Please consult a health care provider for guidance specific to your case. This video discusses narcissism in general.

The New Peoplemaking

Revised and expanded seminal work on families, with more than a million copies sold in 12 languages. The New Peoplemaking expresses Satir's most evolved thoughts on self-worth, communication, family systems, and the ways in which people relate to one another.

What to Do If You Grew Up in a Dysfunctional Family

No family is perfect! It’s far from it. All families experience some level of dysfunction. Most, however, manage pretty well despite it.

I don’t remember who said this, but there really are places in the heart you don’t even know exist until you love a child.


Watch this to never feel guilty again

If your holiday traditions include a guilt trip from your family— you need to watch this. Guilt only works if you allow it to affect you. So the next time your parents are trying to guilt trip you— don’t buy a ticket. Reframe the conversation by calling them out.

Helping Families to Change

With an emphasis on learning to change through other modalities than speech, this book discusses the importance of non-verbal body experience and awareness of kinetic cues in interpersonal relationships. A number of meditative exercises are included.

What to Do If a Sibling Is Treating Your Parents Badly

You don't always have to intervene, but if you decide to, make sure you have everyone's side of the story.

All parents damage their children. It cannot be helped. Youth, like pristine glass, absorbs the prints of its handlers. Some parents smudge, others crack, a few shatter childhoods completely into jagged little pieces, beyond repair.


Family Relationship Advice: How to Deal with Negative Family Members

Family relationship advice: Learn how to deal with negative family members! In this video: I’ll be teaching you to know that you have a choice.

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families

In his first major work since The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen R. Covey presents a practical and philosophical guide to solving the problems--large and small, mundane and extraordinary―that confront all families and strong communities.