People tend to think of forgiveness as “letting the other person off the hook.” Not so! Forgiveness is about an attitude toward the self and others that frees us to move forward instead of remaining stuck in suffering. While there are many differing philosophies about the source, purpose, and function of forgiveness, it is commonly considered a central tenet of spiritual life as well as psychological health, allowing for a future unburdened by negative emotions in response to perceived offenses. It can be cultivated by intentional practices of release or can develop through acceptance over time.
Scientists who study forgiveness have long agreed that it is one of the most important contributors to a healthy relationship. Studies have shown that couples who practice forgiveness are more likely to enjoy longer, more satisfying romantic relationships.