Infidelity, or “cheating,” can be any behavior that promotes intimacy outside of an established exclusive relationship. It is most immediately recognized as physical or sexual contact, but many consider “emotional affairs” to be just as damaging. Infidelity can be a symptom of existing and unresolved problems within a relationship, but it can also occur in otherwise healthy relationships, taking everyone by surprise. Whether or not the result is separation or reconciliation, the betrayal of infidelity can have long-reaching effects, both on each partner and any affected parties—such as children, parents, and close friends—influencing each one’s future interpersonal relationships.


Rethinking Infidelity ... a Talk for Anyone Who Has Ever Loved | Esther Perel

Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal. But does it have to be? Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines why people cheat, and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic: because they threaten our emotional security. In infidelity, she sees something unexpected - an expression of longing and loss.

The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity

Iconic couples' therapist and best-selling author of Mating in Captivity Esther Perel returns with a groundbreaking and provocative look at infidelity, arguing for a more nuanced and less judgmental conversation about our transgressions.

Why People Cheat

Perel offers nuanced support for individuals, couples, and other lovers in the throes of an affair, or its aftermath.


Trusting in a New Relationship...After an Infidelity in Your Last One - Esther Perel

Everyone brings a legacy of past relationships to your new ones. When that past includes infidelity, it can be difficult to trust that your new partner is trust-worthy. This is not a concern that will magically vanish.

Deceived: Facing the Trauma of Sexual Betrayal

Claudia Black's updated bestselling primer for women whose partners are acting out sexually. Multiple affairs, compulsive pornography, prostitutes, and voyeurism—no matter their “drug” of choice, men who act out sexually leave their partners reeling in fear, rage, shame, and isolation.

Why Happy People Cheat

Infidelity may be ubiquitous, but the way we make meaning of it—how we define it, experience it, and talk about it—is ultimately linked to the particular time and place where the drama unfolds.


How Does the Betrayed Regain Self Confidence After Infidelity? Part One

Samuel answers one of the most asked questions from betrayed spouses about regaining confidence after infidelity.

Not "Just Friends": Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity

You're right to be cautious when you hear these words, "I'm telling you, we're just friends." Good people in good marriages are having affairs. The workplace and the Internet have become fertile breeding grounds for "friendships" that can slowly and insidiously turn into love affairs.

10 Benefits of Faithfulness

We live in a society of constant progression. I can't remember a time when there wasn't any construction being done on the highways. Every day we see a new release of something: the next best phone, the next best car, the next best shoes. We desire the latest and greatest in every aspect of life.


How to Heal from Infidelity: What If It Was Just an Emotional Affair?

Samuel discusses emotional vs physical affairs and the impact emotional affairs have on betrayed spouses.


Relationship Challenges