It’s natural that when we see people we care about going through challenges, we want to help. But sometimes we stop ourselves from reaching out—we’re worried that we might say the wrong thing, worried we might not be able to offer enough help to matter, worried we might make things worse. The truth is that there are so many ways we can help each other through hard times, and the most important one is being present with what you have, where you are, with those who are suffering. There are many strategies that can bolster our confidence to help when others ask, and many different skills we can learn to help listen deeply, show compassion, and be there for each other in constructive, meaningful ways.
We live in an increasingly "virtual" world in which it can be tempting to skip making that true, human connection with someone in pain. Even though our thoughts might be with them, we lack the confidence to reach out, worrying that we will say or do the "wrong" thing.