It’s natural that when we see people we care about going through challenges, we want to help. But sometimes we stop ourselves from reaching out—we’re worried that we might say the wrong thing, worried we might not be able to offer enough help to matter, worried we might make things worse. The truth is that there are so many ways we can help each other through hard times, and the most important one is being present with what you have, where you are, with those who are suffering. There are many strategies that can bolster our confidence to help when others ask, and many different skills we can learn to help listen deeply, show compassion, and be there for each other in constructive, meaningful ways.
The prepared remarks of Valarie Kaur at the Pentagon’s second-ever commemoration of the Sikh faith on May 1, 2015. Kaur spoke alongside Simran Jeet Singh and Inni Kaur on “Seva” - selfless service in the Sikh religion.
Could you easily name the 10 people who have been most influential in your life? The handful of people who have helped to determine who you have become? The very people with whom you have felt most vitally connected over the course of your lifetime?