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Regret



Regret is a strong feeling that we dislike experiencing, usually because it frequently comes along with shame for having done something we feel we shouldn’t have—or not done something we feel that we should. But regret can be a powerful force for internal change: if we confront it and work to figure out what made us behave in a way we don’t like, we can prevent ourselves from doing it again in the future. It also helps us choose accountability, which is the first step in authentically repairing relationships we may have damaged with our words or actions. Reconciling our desired self-image with reality can be a difficult, painful process, but it can help us live a life freer from anxiety and self-doubt.

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Kathryn Schulz: Don’t Regret Regret

We’re taught to try to live life without regret. But why? Using her own tattoo as an example, Kathryn Schulz makes a powerful and moving case for embracing our regrets.

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Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing

After too many years of unfulfilling work, Bronnie Ware began searching for a job with heart. Despite having no formal qualifications or previous experience in the field, she found herself working in palliative care.

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Dealing with What Might Have Been

Regret usually comes in one of two basic forms. For one, it may emerge as a sense of remorse, sadness and, often, guilt over things that happened but shouldn’t have. Deeply offending or betraying a friend would be an example.

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FindCenterAll the ‘not readies,’ all the ‘I need time,’ are understandable, but only for a short while. The truth is that there is never a ‘completely ready,’ there is never a really ‘right time.

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Regret, How Can We Move Past It? | Cooper Vardy | TEDxYouth@WISS

In this talk, Vardy attempts to define regret, outline the steps in overcoming it, and express his thoughts on how to apprehend rewarding experiences one might otherwise rebuff.

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Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: Overcoming Regrets, Mistakes, and Missed Opportunities

Who of us can claim never to have made a mistake, missed a goal, regretted a choice, or suffered because of another’s action? For those who suffer from a constant sense of regret about the past, who feel their present lives have been immutably shaped by actions they could or should or would have...

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What Parents Regret About Having Children

New research explores a taboo topic.

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FindCenterI’ve seen men who were haunted to the point of madness by things that never were and things that should have been.

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The Science of Regret | Marcel Zeelenberg | TEDxCollegeofEuropeNatolin

A researcher and lecturer at Tilburg University; works on economic psychology, behavioural economics, and decision research. Mr ZEELENBERG talked about the science of regret. Marcel Zeelenberg is a psychologist at Tilburg University, The Netherlands.

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Athletes Share 9 Olympic-Sized Secret Regrets

Many athletes have Olympic-sized dreams, but in reality, only a handful actually make it that far. It takes the perfect combination of discipline, dedication, persistence, talent, skill — and even luck — to successfully compete in the world’s biggest competitive arena.

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