Regret is a strong feeling that we dislike experiencing, usually because it frequently comes along with shame for having done something we feel we shouldn’t have—or not done something we feel that we should. But regret can be a powerful force for internal change: if we confront it and work to figure out what made us behave in a way we don’t like, we can prevent ourselves from doing it again in the future. It also helps us choose accountability, which is the first step in authentically repairing relationships we may have damaged with our words or actions. Reconciling our desired self-image with reality can be a difficult, painful process, but it can help us live a life freer from anxiety and self-doubt.
Who of us can claim never to have made a mistake, missed a goal, regretted a choice, or suffered because of another’s action? For those who suffer from a constant sense of regret about the past, who feel their present lives have been immutably shaped by actions they could or should or would have...
A researcher and lecturer at Tilburg University; works on economic psychology, behavioural economics, and decision research. Mr ZEELENBERG talked about the science of regret. Marcel Zeelenberg is a psychologist at Tilburg University, The Netherlands.
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