The need for human connection remains our most innate desire. We engage in romantic relationships when we become intimately involved with another person on an emotional (and frequently sexual) level. While the time together can be deeply fulfilling with mutual attraction, shared dedication, and unmistakable affection, there are countless expectations, assumptions, and misunderstandings that must be examined and clarified to maintain a healthy and deepening relationship.
In long-term relationships, we often expect our beloved to be both best friend and erotic partner. But as Esther Perel argues, good and committed sex draws on two conflicting needs: our need for security and our need for surprise.
As humans, most of us yearn for fulfilling relationships. They provide unlimited ways for us to learn, grow, thrive, and have fun! Yet, as we know, relationships aren't always a “bed of roses”—especially romantic ones.
ALL relationships face a similar set of hurdles. We all need to be equipped to get over the hurdles, so that our relationships don’t just survive, but thrive. Based on over 20+ years’ experience of working with countless couples, Dr.