By Drake Baer — 2017
A conversation with Frank Ostaseski, founder of the Zen Hospice Project.
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CLEAR ALL
Throughout life, we experience many instances of grief. Grief can be caused by situations, relationships, or even substance abuse.
It is extremely difficult for anyone, especially young people in their 20s and 30s, to be told that their treatment(s) haven’t worked. If the cancer you have continues to progress despite treatment, it may be called end-stage cancer.
The time between diagnosis and death presents an opportunity for “extraordinary growth.”
This is written for the person with advanced cancer, but it can be helpful to the people who care for, love, and support this person, too.
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When I got sick, I warned my friends: Don’t try to make me stop thinking about death.
I’ve discovered that growing older hasn’t been a Lego-like replacement of “young” Ken figures with increasingly older versions. Instead, all of these younger selves are still very much alive and thriving, layered and integrated over the years.
The expert in the spiritual dimensions of aging and dying, Kathleen Dowling Singh, has herself died, in October 2017, in her early 70s, from a “form of cancer,” in her words, that she had not known about, or at least had not told people about.
Zen training talks a lot about death. But one practitioner found that it doesn’t necessarily prepare you to face your own.
Death anxiety encompasses a broad spectrum of emotions ranging from a few passing moments of fear to a complete state of panic.
The ultimate tragedy of the human condition is our awareness of our inevitable mortality.
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