By Lori H. Gordon — 2016
How relationships are sabotaged by hidden expectations.
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As they reach adulthood, the overarching quest of many in this first generation to be identified with Asperger syndrome is the same as many of their nonautistic peers: to find someone to love who will love them back.
People with physical disabilities fight hurtful stereotypes when looking for relationship partners
Because I’m at ease with my disability and have grown to understand my limitations, it’s been easier for me to figure out solutions to what might be everyday obstacles to other people.
Born with a rare neuromuscular condition, the New York–based mother of twins and psychotherapist has dealt with physical limitations her whole life. But what these limitations have resulted in is a rich list of abilities and lessons that she is uniquely suited to pass down to her children.
But despite the challenges, kids raised by one or more disabled parents often benefit immensely from the experience.
I have been no stranger to inter-ability relationships. But finding the right person to be able to handle me and my disability has been difficult.
Tip #7: Be patient with us.
Sometimes you have to come up with unique ways to show love if your partner has a disability.
The ongoing dialogue I have with my own perspective and emotions is the biggest job I’ve ever undertaken. Exploring this internal give-and-take forces me to grow in surprising ways.
Often, disabled people have their disability treated, but they don’t have their emotional or spiritual needs addressed.
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