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Why Can’t I Let Love In?

By Randi Gunther — 2014

In the early months of every intimate relationship, the new partners of people-who-can’t-take-love-in feel they have scored a great person, someone who gives easily but doesn’t seem to require much in return. Unfortunately, over time, they begin to realize that these easy-going, undemanding people are very comfortable caring for them but won’t or can’t allow themselves to take in loving behaviors from their partners. Over time, they feel invalidated, as if their love isn’t good enough. They may confront their partners with accusations of commitment phobia or even infidelity.

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