By Lori Gottlieb — 2011
Why the obsession with our kids’ happiness may be dooming them to unhappy adulthoods. A therapist and mother reports.
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“For your husband, your illness may have made him acutely aware of not just your mortality, but also his own.”
Parenthood — especially for women — changes you. After giving birth, the brain actually redesigns itself, trimming old connections and building new ones. If you’re someone who has constructed your adult identity around your career, these changes to how you operate can shake your foundations.
Liam had always looked out for his younger brother Sam. But whenever Sam took the late bus after soccer practice, Liam worried about him so much he couldn't concentrate on his homework.
I was a cool hand, before I became a mother. Now, I’m a hopeless phobic. Whenever a child of mine gets sick, even with just a routine flu or stomach virus, every cough makes my heart race.
In low seasons, while you sit in the waiting room of life, patience is a superpower. But by adopting these seven mindsets, you can run circles around life’s challenges.
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As a child psychiatrist for nearly four decades, I’ve seen that when children are also exposed to the never-ending negative news cycle—even if that just means hearing their parents talk about current events—it makes them feel unsafe, which is often manifested by sleepless nights, anxiety,...