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Why It’s Important to Fight Fairly: An Interview with Stan Tatkin and Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin
By Stan Tatkin, Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin — 2017
Learning to fight fairly is key to preserving goodwill in all our relationships, from personal to public. Stan Tatkin and his partner Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, codevelopers of the Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy, say the key lies in staying connected even as you express your unhappiness.
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