By Suzanne Phillips — 2015
The problem with sexual withholding in a marriage has far less to do with actually having or not having sex and much more to do with misunderstanding.
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If we learn to see our relationships as the wonderfully accurate mirrors they are, revealing to us where we need to go with our own inner process, we can see much about ourselves that we would otherwise have a great deal of difficulty learning.
Everything in our lives reflects where we are in the process of developing integration and balance.
An interview with Shefali Tsabary, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist, international keynote speaker and bestselling author of The Conscious Parent, Out of Control and her latest, The Awakened Family.
A real relationship is steeped in an inner knowing of ones’ inherent value. It blooms from well-loved and maintained foundation of self-knowledge, self-respect and clear values.
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I’m the first to admit that for many years, I was a bit emotionally needy. Not in a crazy, desperate way, but in the way that many of us are. I wanted someone else to make me happy, blamed others for my unhappiness, sought to fulfill my emotional needs through others.
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Being in a relationship that is devoid of emotional support is difficult. The person who doesn’t receive what they need often feels isolated, rejected, and unloved. It’s easy to pinpoint the problem when you are the victim, but what if you are the withholder?
There are two very common ways that people keep love at bay. They can either not ever let love in so that the walls around their hearts remain impenetrable, or they can withhold the love they do feel inside so that their partners cannot get access to it.
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The silent treatment is a refusal to communicate verbally with another person. People who use the silent treatment may even refuse to acknowledge the presence of the other person.
If you're like most people, you've probably heard the old adage, "silence is golden." But when it comes to marriage, is that really the case? Most psychologists indicate that it depends on the situation.
Maybe you need an FBI Hostage Negotiator to help release your partner's affection for you?