By Robert Enright — 2018
Having all needs met and living with little suffering may stifle growth.
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You not calling, as a friend, can actually compound the grief and loss they are feeling. Just pick up the phone, even if you get it wrong, just have a conversation and do your best. Your friend with cancer is still the same person they were before.
If we can process our regrets with tenderness and compassion, we can use these hard memories as a part of our wisdom bank.
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Forgiving someone is a way of letting go of old baggage so that you can heal and move forward with your life. It benefits both the person who forgives and the offender because it can allow both people to let go of past resentments.
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Emotion coaching is the practice of talking with children about their feelings, and offering kids strategies for coping with emotionally difficult situations. The goal is to empathize, reassure, and teach. Does it make a difference? Yes.
Frankl’s thesis echoes those of many sages, from Buddhists to Stoics to his 20th century Existentialist contemporaries: “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
In the past 10 years, I've realized that our culture is rife with ideas that actually inhibit joy. Here are some of the things I'm most grateful to have unlearned:
Forgiveness is an interesting phenomenon. As you learn to forgive and to say, “Of course you’re human,” or, “We all do that,” you open up your heart to embrace the person or the situation back into you.
Some people harbor the illusion that rest is a luxury they do not have time for, but the reality is that rest is a necessity.
No matter what you say to someone whose parent or loved one died, it should be derivative of the same goal: communicating empathy and offering assistance, understanding what a person might need from you, and knowing how to phrase sentiments the right way.
Maslow’s highest level on the hierarchy of needs.