By Jenara Nerenberg — 2019
You can find plenty of practical information out there about pregnancy and parenting, but what about the emotional rollercoaster and identity shift that occurs for many women and their partners when they have a child?
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My husband and I grope each other constantly. I don’t think a day goes by without at least one of us copping a feel. I say this proudly because after almost 20 years of being together, we are still hot for each other. And I don’t see any reason to hide this from our kids.
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The qualities of character develop through an interplay of family, school, and community influences and the child’s individual temperament, experiences, and choices. Parents have many opportunities and tools to build their children’s character.
Between taking children to school and managing other to-dos, some days it may feel like you don’t get a minute to yourself. And even when you hear about, self-care, you may dismiss it as frivolous, unnecessary, or even selfish.
Some people harbor the illusion that rest is a luxury they do not have time for, but the reality is that rest is a necessity.