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For Queer Men of Color, Pressure to Have a Perfect Body Is About Race Too
By Naveen Kumar — 2019
For many of us, men with broad shoulders, narrow hips, taut muscles, and white skin — sun-kissed or pale under hot lights — became an ideal we couldn’t escape. We coveted images of these bodies like treasure, and they educated us in the rules of attraction.
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