By Alex Horton — 2012
After months or years in far-off war zones, former soldiers are facing a new kind of isolation at college.
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You can find plenty of practical information out there about pregnancy and parenting, but what about the emotional rollercoaster and identity shift that occurs for many women and their partners when they have a child?
There’s a stigma around being a stay-at-home mom, and society doesn’t talk about the loneliness, isolation, and loss of identity that sometimes accompanies this choice. Here’s what you need to know about stay-at-home mom depression.
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I’m afraid to need friendship, but it doesn’t change the fact that I do.
Without adequate social support, many new moms struggle to feel happy.
What catches most new moms by complete and utter surprise is the intense—and sometimes dark—pit of loneliness they feel, even though they have a newborn by their side all day, every day. And, this loneliness affects far more moms than you might expect.
As a new mum, I know loneliness cuts deep – and the lack of services for parent and child plays a large part in this.
New motherhood comes with many joys and challenges. What you may not be expecting is the sense of isolation that is common for parents who have just given birth to a baby, especially for first-time mothers.
I have three children, some really good girlfriends, and family who lives close by that I can count on. Yet I am still taken aback by the lonely feelings that live inside me since I became a mother.
The very qualities that lead to greater emotional satisfaction in peer marriages, as one sociologist calls them, may be having an unexpectedly negative impact on these couples’ sex lives.
Couples are having less sex these days than even in the famously uptight ’50s. Why?