Chris Germer, PhD, is a clinical psychologist, speaker, and author on mindfulness and self-compassion. He developed the field of mindfulness-based self-compassion therapy with Kristin Neff.
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Mental pain is less dramatic than physical pain, but it is more common and also more hard to bear. The frequent attempt to conceal mental pain increases the burden: it is easier to say ‘My tooth is aching’ than to say ‘My heart is broken.’
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Affliction is often that thing which prepares an ordinary person for some sort of an extraordinary destiny.
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Failures are finger posts on the road to achievement.
We are what we believe we are!
'Knock and it shall be opened.’ But does knocking mean hammering and kicking the door like a maniac?
No great wisdom can be reached without sacrifice.
Do not waste time bothering whether you ‘love’ your neighbor; act as if you did. As soon as we do this we find one of the great secrets. When you are behaving as if you loved someone, you will presently come to love him.
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It may be hard for an egg to turn into a bird: it would be a jolly sight harder for a bird to learn to fly while remaining an egg. We are like eggs at present. And you cannot go on indefinitely being just an ordinary, decent egg. We must be hatched or go bad.
Pride gets no pleasure out of having something, only out of having more of it than the next man. . . . It is the comparison that makes you proud: the pleasure of being above the rest. Once the element of competition is gone, pride is gone.
Everyone thinks forgiveness is a lovely idea until he has something to forgive.