Avoidant and Anxious Relationship Struggles: How to Spot the Trap

Now, the point I really want to make today, is that you don’t need to have experienced significant trauma, or attachment disruptions in your past, to slip into experiencing anxiety or avoidance as a go to coping skill for stress in a romantic situation. There are some folks whom we might qualify as generally secure, who will lean in one direction or the other when under stress in a relationship-just perhaps not to a degree where it leads to significant dysfunction in their lives and relationships.