By Abdul Ali — 2012
The Pulitzer-winning author discusses the role of literature in moments of upheaval, the importance of women’s rights, and more.
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What life demands of us changes somewhere along the way. The second half of the journey is when we truly become grown-up—and must own up to responsibility for the way things are turning out.
The ways in which we currently age have been programmed into us, and we have accepted this idea as a reality. As a society, with some exceptions, we have come to believe that we all will get old, sick, senile, frail, and die -- in that order. This does not have to be the truth for us any longer.
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Midlife malaise is common, but take heart: Happiness tends to rebound as we get older, and there are ways to cope in the meantime.
My inner work involves a mystical form of Judaism called Kabbalah. As part of that work, I do a nightly examination of conscience. I ask myself: What was this day all about? What did I do? How did I feel? How did I relate to people?
Every day, I get closer to the brink of everything. We’re all headed that way, of course, even when we’re young, though most of us are too busy with Important Matters to ponder our mortality.
There’s no magic pill that can reverse aging, but there are lifestyle changes you can make now—no matter what your age—to keep you feeling young for years to come.
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It’s no wonder we’re afraid of getting older. The so-called problem of aging is trumpeted everywhere we turn. We hear the message that aging is a great social ill, a necessary evil, a drain on society, and an affront to aesthetics.
Perhaps a little more intergenerational learning is just what other high-tech firms need.
In our increasingly accelerated world that reveres the young, many midlife professionals sense that the ground is shifting beneath their feet, leaving them feeling invisible, undervalued and threatened by the digital natives nipping at their heels.
As we grow older, we no longer need to “fit in” but are free to be ourselves and explore new ideas.