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The Two Simple Ways to Upgrade Your Relationship

By Harville Hendrix — 2001

When a relationship is going well, it feels magical. After 40 years as a marital therapist, though, I know that good marriages depend on more than magic. They are built on habits that capture the feelings you have for each other and make them durable. I've seen couples use these skills to transform a poor marriage into one that is wonderful.

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Managing the Flames of Conflict

Conflict doesn’t mean the end of your remarriage, and can actually make it stronger. There are always going to be disagreements; you cannot avoid them entirely. What you can do, however, is become skilled at recovering from disputes by talking about your perspectives afterwards.

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Is Your Marriage Worth Saving?

A Q&A with Terry Real

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Does a More Equal Marriage Mean Less Sex?

The very qualities that lead to greater emotional satisfaction in peer marriages, as one sociologist calls them, may be having an unexpectedly negative impact on these couples’ sex lives.

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How Your Mother Can Improve Your Love Life. ~ Mark Wolynn

When you think of your mother, does your heart open with compassion or tighten with resentment? Do you allow yourself to feel her tenderness and care? The way we receive our mother’s love can be similar to how we experience love from a partner.

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No Such Thing as a Relationship Expert

From a Buddhist standpoint, there’s nothing to win in a relationship, just as there’s nothing to win in life—except, of course, the deep satisfaction that comes from appreciation, collaboration, and love.

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21 Ways to Strengthen Struggling Relationships

All relationships go through phases, there will be good times and challenges. When you recognize that your relationship is in a rough spot, take heart. Great relationships don’t happen by luck. There are the specific skills and actions that strengthen our relationships.

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Relationship Challenges

Adult relationships succeed or fail for many reasons beyond the partners' childhoods, of course. Most people have to work to master the skills necessary to make romantic relationships endure and flourish, and threats to their connection are sources of great psychological anguish.

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Why Couples Fight: Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt

We think most couples wait too long to get help, so we want to bring the simple practices of a conscious partnership into the mainstream so people know how to be in a marriage before they enter one.

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How to Make Every Relationship a Success

Ditch the idea of a "failed relationship" and make each relationship you have one that you can learn and grow from.

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Love Is Not a Permanent State of Enthusiasm: An Interview with Esther Perel

From the New Yorker Festival, the couples therapist and podcast host discusses infidelity, apologies, and the problem with wedding vows these days.

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