By Sara Eckel — 2019
Sharing personal information brings people together and helps them like one another more. But in an age of self-disclosure, how do you know when you’ve gone too far—or when someone else has ulterior motives?
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This story is about a situation where Todd, a husband, almost left his wife and kids, and the wife found a way to ask one non-defensive question that led to a conversation that saved the marriage.
When we’re upset with someone, we’re often afraid to say anything. We tell ourselves, “Oh, it’s just a small matter; it’s not important.” But the accumulation of many small issues can create an explosive situation, and can even cause relationships to break.
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This story is about a mom and a step-dad who had argued a lot over a teenage daughter who was rude and home and unwilling to do her part. The step-dad shifted to using a non-defensive statement and got very different results.
So often when we set limits it is with an agenda. We want a certain result and are upset if we don't get it. Here I talk about how to set limits that really work, but it requires not trying to control "which choice" the other child or adult makes.
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How do we create a healthier relationship with anger? Most of us either stuff our anger or we suddenly find ourselves erupting in rage.