By Jennifer Freed — 2020
One of the hardest aspects of being human is moving past shame. Those feelings of deep regret—and the lingering insecurity and unworthiness that most likely accompany them—stick with us in a way that can be profound.
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CLEAR ALL
I am not the only one that has uttered something shitty to their kid. Everyone has had their asshole parent moment(s)(s)(s) while dealing with a kid. But no one really knows that we are all asshole parents because we all suffer in silence over our own parenting disgrace.
The pandemic has exacerbated the isolation of early motherhood; some apps are trying to create a safer space for new moms.
When shame takes over, all we want is to get out of its discomfort—and in order to do so we often end up invalidating the other person involved to help ourselves feel better.
A trend that is unfortunately common with individuals and mothers in this generation is “Mom Shaming,” which generally speaking is criticizing a mother for making choices for her child(ren) because they differ from the choices the criticizing person would make.
Taking a close look at the elephant hidden in plain sight.
With myriad back-to-school options to choose from, moms’ groups have hit judgment overload.
We are worthy because we are there every day with love, hope and faith. We love. We laugh. We encourage. Even though we don't know what the future holds. We mother in spite of that uncertainty.
Combining responsibilities at work with caregiving, working mothers are experiencing growing shame for not living up to anyone’s expectations, including their own.
I never felt much shame until I had my child.
My pleasure simply doesn’t come, like my mother’s, from carrying a heavy pack up Mt. Everest or sleeping on a mat in a tent in the rain. Instead, it comes from dancing, Pilates, reading, and movies—but that’s OK!