By Sheila Rubin — 2016
Sheila Rubin discusses her ideas on Healing Shame. Shame can bind with fear to create social anxiety. Shame can also bind with happiness, or get in the way of happiness.
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On a ranch in upper Marin County in September, Shauna Shapiro, PhD, invited an audience to each put a hand over their heart. It’s a simple act she instructs people to take all the time. Throughout the day, a number of men approached her to express their gratitude.
In a world where there’s much to be taken seriously, it’s important to remember to laugh. Not to make light of the severity of war, discrimination, terror threats, or climate change, but to maintain a perspective that there is still much to be thankful for and to celebrate in your life.
Modern life has become increasingly complicated and it’s believed that stress is the primary obstacle to laughter. Laughter is a physical expression of humor and joy that has numerous protective qualities.
I catch some things here and there: a scurrying chipmunk crosses the path, a patch of sunlight glimmers ahead of me. But mostly, I’m in my head and in my feet as I cross a metaphorical finish line, completing my mileage for the day.
These four avenues can lead you toward self-forgiveness.
Failing to manage your anger can lead to a variety of problems like saying things you regret, yelling at your kids, threatening your co-workers, sending rash emails, developing health problems, or even resorting to physical violence.
My worst enemy is as close as it gets: She's literally under my skin. Oh, there are other people in the world who have hurt my feelings, called me names and sabotaged my work, health and relationships. But when it comes to acting against my own interests, no one can hold a candle to yours truly.
In the past 10 years, I've realized that our culture is rife with ideas that actually inhibit joy. Here are some of the things I'm most grateful to have unlearned:
Still clinging to the fears and fury of childhood? You can unarrest your development once and for all.
Researchers say we’re wired for joy and what it means for resilience
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