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Dealing with Grief: Five Things Not to Say and Five Things to Say in a Trauma Involving Children
By Rev. Emily C. Heath — 2013
Religion can help many of us move past grief and make sense of tragedy. But according to Reverend Emily C. Heath, religion can often come off as trite rather than insightful.
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Do not waste time bothering whether you ‘love’ your neighbor; act as if you did. As soon as we do this we find one of the great secrets. When you are behaving as if you loved someone, you will presently come to love him.3
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