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Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person

By Alain de Botton — 2016

Romanticism has been unhelpful to us; it is a harsh philosophy. It has made a lot of what we go through in marriage seem exceptional and appalling. We end up lonely and convinced that our union, with its imperfections, is not “normal.” We should learn to accommodate ourselves to “wrongness,” striving always to adopt a more forgiving, humorous and kindly perspective on its multiple examples in ourselves and in our partners.

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Why Even the Best Marriages Are Hard Sometimes

Everyone who just got married is psyched about it. It’s a new adventure they’re embarking on with their best friend forever. Everyone who has been married for 50 years or more is psyched about it. They’re living with their oldest friend, it’s been a trip, totally worth it.

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Keeping Marriages Healthy, and Why It’s So Difficult

After two people stand before everyone important to them in the world and publicly declare that they love each other and intend to remain together for the rest of their lives, everything social psychology has learned about the stability of publicly declared opinions suggests that these will be the...

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What We Can Learn from the Best Marriages

Relationships today are facing challenges that are unique to modern times. A new book offers three strategies to help yours thrive.

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What You Lose When You Gain a Spouse

In America today, it’s easy to believe that marriage is a social good—that our lives and our communities are better when more people get and stay married.

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Intimacy Exists Outside of Just Sex—Here Are 4 Other Kinds

There are at least four types of intimacy that don't involve sex or touch at all—but are just as impactful in a romantic partnership.

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Harville Hendrix Wants to Save America, One Marriage at a Time

What happens when marriage counselors want to heal society? Relationship gurus Harville Hendrix (called the “marriage whisperer” by Oprah) and his wife, Helen LaKelly Hunt, are so convinced that keeping couples together is the key to societal happiness and prosperity that they have launched a...

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The One Thing You Need to Do to Save Your Marriage

Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, authors of Making Marriage Simple: 10 Truths for Changing the Relationship You Have into the One You Want, reveal a strategy they discovered in their own struggles, which can lead to a massive, permanent turnaround.

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The Marriage Repair Kit

When we fall in love, we see life in Technicolor. We nibble each other's ears and tell each other everything; our limitations and rigidities melt away. We're sexier, smarter, funnier, more giving. We feel whole; we're connected.

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What Wedding Vows and Other Commitments Get Wrong

When you are not emotionally transparent, it creates a negative domino effect. You build up resentment and start acting differently towards your partner, which in turn creates distance in your relationship.

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How to Practice Forgiveness in Marriage

Learning to let go after betrayal or hurt.

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