By John Brandon — 2014
Here are ten habits to develop to gain more confidence at work.
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Who hasn’t felt the sting of rejection? It doesn’t take much for your feelings to get hurt—a look or a tone of voice or certain words can set you ruminating for hours on what that person meant. An unreturned phone call or a disappointing setback can really throw you off your center.
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When we take rejection as proof of our inadequacies, it’s hard to allow ourselves to risk being truly seen again. . . . The problem arises when shame kicks in and we aren’t able to view our flaws, limitations, and vulnerabilities in a patient, self-loving way.
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If you love deeply, you’re going to get hurt badly. But it’s still worth it.
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When we force ourselves to muster up confidence, it never really feels authentic. Meditation can help you find a quieter, freer kind of confidence. And with a bit of practice, it will just start to come naturally. Learn to meditate in ten minutes a day with the Headspace app.
It is the rise from falling that Brown takes as her subject in Rising Strong.
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The fastest route to confidence is to stop being so attached to one’s dignity and seriousness; and plainly admit that one is—of course—an idiot. We all are.
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Author and vulnerability researcher Brené Brown shows us how to deal with the critics and our own self-doubt by refusing to “armor up” and shut ourselves off. “Not caring what people think,” she says, “is its own kind of hustle.”
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Every day we experience the uncertainty, risks, and emotional exposure that define what it means to be vulnerable or to dare greatly.
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The key problem in relationships, particularly over time, is that people begin to lose their voice.