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Qualities of the B (aka Bench-Warming) Player
By Hilary Levey Friedman — 2013
In researching a book, this sociologist interviewed parents and kids—and their teachers and coaches—to observe the ways in which being the highest achiever could sometimes be perceived as a negative for other children and their coaches.
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