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I’ve also learned that you don’t always get to pick the people with whom you travel the journey. You sometimes may think you do, but don’t be deceived. And the corollary of that — and this was my real lesson — is that you start to realize that you can love even the people you don’t like and must love and help everyone.

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Lama Surya Das is an American poet, author, and Western Buddhist meditation teacher and scholar. He is one of the main interpreters of Tibetan Buddhism in the West and is a leading spokesperson for American Buddhism. He is also the founder of the Dzogchen Center in Cambridge, Massachusetts.

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