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When we were babies, we didn’t smile sweetly at our mothers to get them to take care of us. We didn’t pinpoint our discomfort by putting it into words. We simply opened our mouths and screamed. And it didn’t take us long to learn that, the louder we screamed, the quicker they came. The success of this tactic was turned into an ‘imprint,’ a part of our stored memory about how to get the world to respond to our needs: ‘When you are frustrated, provoke the people around you.’
Harville Hendrix, PhD, is an American couple’s therapist, pastoral counselor, and author. He is best known for work conducted with his wife, Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD, and their development of Imago Relationship Therapy, which focuses on relational counseling to transform conflict between couples into opportunities for healing and growth.
