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The Mental Divorce | Dr. John Gottman

By John Gottman — 2010

The ability to accept influence is critical for solving difficult problems in relationships. In this clip Dr. Gottman explains what happens when partners cannot accept influence from each other. Fortunately, there are ways to talk and build trust enough to learn how to do this.

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FindCenter Quotes ImageWe cannot make another person change his or her steps to an old dance, but if we change our own steps, the dance no longer can continue in the same predictable pattern.

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Harriet Lerner
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Love Hurts: Buddhist Advice for the Heartbroken

Buddhism has a lot to say about suffering—and there are likely few times we suffer more intensely than when we break up with a romantic partner. It feels like you may never recover sometimes.

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Lodro Rinzler
2016
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FindCenter Quotes ImageOnly through our connectedness to others can we really know and enhance the self. And only through working on the self can we begin to enhance our connectedness to others.

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Harriet Lerner
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Self Care vs. Self Love: How to Love Yourself in a Relationship

It can be easy to get caught up in your relationship, but focusing on two different concepts; self care and self love, can help you stay in-tune with yourself so that you can be more present for yourself, your partner and your relationship.

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Caitlin Killoren
2020
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How to Love Yourself Again After a Breakup: 18 Acts of Self-Care

Learning to love yourself again is an essential step in the healing process. To help you along the way, we reached out to mental health and relationship experts to share the self-care practices they recommend to anyone going through a breakup to help show themselves a little love.

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Gabrielle Kassel
2020
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Divorce and Breakup