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How to Transform Shame Over the Holidays
By Sheila Rubin — 2017
There’s an expectation of what is supposed to happen during the holidays: images of a family gathered around a tree, presents, food, love and connection as people smile at each other. But if your family is different, there sometimes can be shame. Sheila Rubin explains how to use somatic, cognitive, and imaginal coping skills to learn to talk to yourself in a kind way.
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