By Joyce Catlett
It’s become more and more difficult to remain vulnerable, trusting, and open to life in this era of uncertainty, global upheaval, divorce, and disrupted family life.
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Understanding how and why can help people cope with the disorder.
At a retreat in the late 1990s, Buddhist teacher, Mary Orr, told us an eye-opening tale. She was in the middle of a harried day in which she had too much to do and too little time in which to do it.
The “do it all myself” mentality is praised by society as a strong work ethic and tenacious independence. But it’s actually a habit born from trauma and feeling unworthy.
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This post is not going to argue that negative self-talk is always a good thing. Far from it.
Let me be the first to tell you that there’s nothing wrong with you. You may have some patterns to unlearn, some self-love to embrace, and some new behaviors to embody, but seriously, there’s nothing wrong with you.
Whatever your negative self-talk looks like, you know it’s not helping you move forward and make progress in your life. It’s also making you feel like crap.
You can learn to consciously choose to replace your negative thoughts with positive ones that will make your life better.
Most people don’t realize it, but as we go about our daily lives we are constantly thinking about and interpreting the situations we find ourselves in. It’s as though we have an internal voice inside our head that determines how we perceive every situation.
So what is negative self-talk exactly? Basically, trash-talking yourself. It’s always good to consider the ways that we need to improve. But there’s a difference between self-reflection and negative self-talk.
In this article we’ll cover what negative self-talk really is, the most common types of negative self-talk (sometimes called Cognitive Distortions), and some strategies you can use to identify and start to change your own unhelpful negative self-talk.