The strongest relationships are between two people who can live without each other but don’t want to.
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Fruit Flies and Love
By Diane Ackerman — 2012
So, is the human dinner date really just courtship feeding after all, a custom we share with fruit flies, robins and chimpanzees? Yes. But what’s the harm in that?
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