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Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust I: The Ambivalent Mother
By Joan Cusack Handler — 2017
We learned early on that we had no control over her moods or our own rewards or punishment. She was entirely unpredictable.
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When forgiveness experts talk in binary language (’You either forgive the wrongdoer or you are a prisoner of your own anger and hate’), they are collapsing the messy complexity of human emotions into a simplistic dichotomous equation.1
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