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Seeing Red: Coping with Anger During Cancer

By Heather L. Van Epps — 2012

Coping with anger during cancer can be difficult. And although anger is commonly regarded as a negative emotion, it can have advantages for cancer patients. “Some patients can take the anger and say, ‘I’m going to use this to fight back,’” says Philip Bialer, MD, a psychiatrist at Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center in New York, “so it can be used in a constructive way.”

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The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships

Anger is something we feel. It exists for a reason and always deserves our respect and attention. We all have a right to everything we feel—and certainly our anger is no exception. "Anger is a signal and one worth listening to," writes Dr.

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