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What Those with Chronic Pain or Illness DON’T Want to Hear

By Toni Bernhard — 2012

I've written this piece partly because I hope it will make those of us with health difficulties feel less alone and partly because I hope it will help others understand how to communicate with us better. With that in mind, I hope you'll find it helpful. Each of the following comments has been made to me at least once since I became ill in 2001.

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‘I Put My Own Life on Hold’: The Pain and Joy of Caring for Parents

After The Times published a pair of articles on elder care—one about a Connecticut home health aide and another about women forgoing careers to care for older relatives—hundreds of our readers shared their own experiences with the hardships of trying to make the final years of a loved one’s life...

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Don’t Tell a Caregiver to Stay Positive. Here’s How to Help Instead

So what does help when a friend or family member is in the thick of caregiving, or any crisis?

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How to Inspire Creativity in Others

Sometimes all someone needs is a little creative inspiration to get the creative juices flowing.

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Dear Therapist: I Survived Cancer, but Now I’m Afraid My Husband Resents Me

“For your husband, your illness may have made him acutely aware of not just your mortality, but also his own.”

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Giving Thanks for My Imperiled Nurse

There are no adequate words to give thanks to those who trudge along with us on the cancer trek, especially those who assist us while they themselves remain vulnerable.

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What to Do When a Coworker Has Cancer

Figuring out what to say—or what not to say—can feel daunting.

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What to Do When Your Employee Is Diagnosed with Cancer

All managers know that they need to help their employees through challenging times. But almost no manager is prepared for when one of their direct reports announces that he or she has cancer, despite the fact that more than 1.6 million people will be diagnosed this year.

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When a Coworker Has Cancer: What to Say

When a coworker is diagnosed with cancer, most people simply don’t know what to say. Speechless is the usual reaction.

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How to Get Someone Out of a Cult

“Do everything you can to stay in touch,” says Janja Lalich, a sociology professor and consultant who studies cults and coercive influence and control.

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When this Gay College Soccer Player Was Called a Slur by an Opponent, His Team Rallied around Him to a 5–0 Win

Couper Gunn had talked openly with his team about gay slurs and their impact on him. It impacted him that night.

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