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Constant Complaining: Does It Serve Us?
By Toni Bernhard — 2012
One of the major sources of dissatisfaction and stress in our lives is our ongoing desire to control what happens to us—to get what we want and get rid of what we don't want. I refer to this type of desire as the state of “want, don’t-want.” How much control do we have over our circumstances? With that in mind, let’s start complaining about our lives.
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